Yes! boundaries can be this simple. We overthink things and complicate it, explain too much and then it sounds like an excuse. Keep it simple. Of course, there are some situations that are more nuanced and need more guidance. Especially if you’re dealing with someone with a personality order or in a position of power that is being abusive—please talk to someone for help with these more difficult situations. Can any of you use some of these simple phrases today? ❤️

Boundaries are not one size fits all, and certain situations are far more nuanced to simplify.   Yet here are some guidelines that work for a range of situations.  1) Identify areas that need boundaries. Where do you feel depleted, exhausted or RESENTFUL—there is likely a boundary that needs to be set.  2) No convoluted explanations—that sounds more like you are making an excuse.  3) Clear, kind and direct—state what you can/can’t do or give. Tone is important for maintaining a feeling of connection.  4) Sit with the discomfort—if you don’t do this normally, it won’t feel great at first. But think about the understanding you would extend to another who shared their limits with you.

Love me a boundary!! Watch full segment: https://www.today.com/video/how-to-set-boundaries-at-home-and-at-work-without-the-guilt-271263301576?search=niro+feliciano

Personal life, relationships, work—we’re talking all about boundaries on Thursday, 9:50 am, on the Today Show, 3rd hour! Join me Oct 8!

No one asked me to make this statement or retract what I said—but I have not been able to stop thinking about this, so just felt like I needed to talk about it. As always, thank you for your grace. ❤️

No, you’re not imagining it. For many second year drop off does not get easier… in fact it can be harder. ❤️‍🩹 How is it been for you this time? And for the first timers, how are you holding up? And if you have a HS senior I know you already feel the anticipation sadness. At least you are not alone. Sending everyone lots of love today. ❤️

Distracted? That’s most of us at one time or another.  And yes, we can train our brain and literally change our brain to stay more focused on task and mind wander less. #BrainHealth #FocusTips #MentalFitness

I hear a lot about regret from parents in these years when kids are preparing to leave for college. While we can’t always prevent those feelings of regret, we can use them to our advantage.

Yes, I told everyone to go touch grass.  The research on grounding (standing barefoot in the grass connecting with the earth) is mixed, but anecdotally, the stories are compelling. That was my experience a few weeks ago when I needed a little dose of calm.  Regulating our nervous systems are so important as we make the transition from GO to rest. Experiencing nature, even taking it in with your eyes and ears, calms the parts of the brain responsible for rumination and stress (DMN, amygdala and ACC).  Slow moments make a difference—an early morning or evening walk, catching a sunset, waiting for the fireflies—build them into your summer routine. You will feel the difference!