Waiting, Normalcy, and Good Energy

How are you today? I know each day can feel a little different these days, but the sun finally making an appearance certainly helps us feel better here in Connecticut. I told you in a previous letter that I wanted to actually hear how you were doing, not just ask, and many of you were interested in a community of sorts. Stay tuned for more on that to come. 

While You Wait

Perhaps some of you are in a season, like me, that necessitates waiting. I think most of us find ourselves here periodically. Maybe you’re waiting for a career opportunity or waiting for school to end or waiting on healing or a change in your relationship. Many are waiting for a graduation and wondering what life will look like on the other side of that transition. So much of life involves waiting. 

Normally, I am not the most patient person in these time of waiting. Waiting often means not knowing, and I like to know things. But when a friend recently asked me how I was doing, this time I felt different. “I’m enjoying living in the normalcy of my life, which I’m starting to appreciate more and more.” 

One thing I’ve learned is that while knowing and getting to the other side of uncertainty is comforting initially—there will be new challenges. I don’t want those right now, so I’m not in the rush for what’s next. I’ve learned to appreciate what’s now and rest in the comfort of normal. And normal isn’t forever and constantly changes. Kids grow up, friends move, schedules change, life shifts. Now, I am holding on to those things that I know will change but that I have right now in front of me. Do you see those things in your own life?

Guard Your Good Energy

Natalia, my 18-year-old, and I were talking about a friendship situation. It’s amazing to witness the evolution of your kids into fully grown humans with their own wisdom and perspective. Had I been in this situation, I would have confronted and addressed the issue. I’m sort of programmed that way as a therapist. She approached it differently. “I’ve learned which battles are worth my energy and which ones are not.” That stayed with me.

Is it worth your energy?  

What a great question to ask. Because sure, we can engage in many situations, but at the end of it—is it worth it? There is so much negative energy in the world. One thing that helps me get through these times of waiting and uncertainty is looking for ways to spread good energy, positivity. What can you affirm in someone else? What can you do for someone that they would appreciate today? Who in your life needs kindness right now?   

I shared on Instagram a moment when I wrote a simple email to thank a coach for what he did for my daughter. I had no idea the ripple effect of positivity it would create. Goes to show—positivity is contagious. 

Parenting is Hard 

By the time you go through the teen years, most of you with kids will have at least one who has gone through something very hard involving a mental health situation. The world is hard on kids—harder than ever before. I talk about it here. 

Getting the right guidance has never been so important! Join me for the Raising Capable Kids conference in Nashville, on September 13, 2025, with the two parenting experts whom I go to for advice on my own kids. You know you want to come to Nashville!! 🎉 There is a discount right now on registration here.

Mental Health Awareness

Lastly, May is Mental Health Awareness Month. I am booking a limited number of corporate speaking events right now for May. Participants will walk away from my talks, workshops, and book signings with tangible and effective tools that they can implement right away to improve their stress levels and mental health—and we have a lot of fun!  Contact us at hello@nirofeliciano.com if you are interested. 

Be well and do something for yourself today. 

You deserve it.

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